Ladies By Design

As Ladies By Design, we have learned to fully embrace growing into the women we were created to be. Of course, we tried to accomplish this mighty goal by following the rules, controlling all aspects of our lives, reading hundreds of self-help books, and much more. In the end, it became clear that living as Ladies By Design is a process. Sometimes akin to the peeling of an onion or uprooting a stubborn tree stump. This corner in our nook of the woods will receive the most attention by far. You see, in our experience, it is impossible to do anything good in the world without submitting to growing body, soul, and spirit. We hope that you connect with a woman here that is walking through, or has overcome, the very same struggles you may endure. We offer no magic pills to ease your worries, pain, or grief. Here we simply offer transparency and hope. To be sure, you will laugh at our foibles and share the wonder of our crazy, true, messy femininity.

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To Dance

1174098_58219639 Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain.  Have you ever played in the rain as a child?  I have, in fact I believe I mentioned in one of my earlier writings about becoming totally soaked while walking to the bus and having to go to school in a rain-soaked dress.  Sometimes even now when it rains, I often wonder what it would feel like to play in the rain again.  Passers by would probably think I was a little on the weird side but the next time it is raining, if you know where I live, and you are the least bit curious, you might drive by my house and find me being a child again playing and dancing in the rain. 

I have learned that life really is intended to be filled with fun and enjoyment.  That was a foreign concept to me for most of my life.  In fact until the last few years, I didn’t really know what fun felt like; much less know the joy of dancing.  Dancing was always portrayed as evil but in every instance when I saw someone dancing whether it was ballroom, waltz, line, two step or whatever, the participants were having such fun.

 

With my upbringing, when some years ago, dance was introduced into the church as part of worship, I was very piously skeptical at first thinking  "Oh my goodness, how far have we allowed ourselves to stray from the path?"  I was many times left in a quandary because I would allow myself to acknowledge there was total worship and communication with the almighty but can this really be okay?  I gradually began to listen and trust the voice speaking to me.  I was able to step over the obstacle of doubt and judgment and see a loving father asking me for a first dance.  Can you imagine how awkward I felt at first and still do at times?  Me dancing in the arms of my father?  

 

I have seen pictures of little girls standing on their daddy’s feet dancing.  I have also seen a dad dancing with their little girls on his knees because he is so much bigger.  My heavenly father is continually inviting me to dance with him and I know he has to bend very low because he is so much bigger than me. 

 

I have a very dear friend, Michele, who is a worshipper.  When I first met her several years ago, I found myself in total rapture as I watched her and her daughter as they worshipped.  Michele is a dancer both in worship and in a party environment like a wedding reception.  She becomes totally lost in dance whether it is in the arms of her heavenly father or dancing by herself on the dance floor. Just this past week I saw her dancing totally enraptured with her infant son Zachery in her arms.  Michele, I am watching you girl. 

 

About 4 ½ years ago I started a life management seminar which lasted for four months.  I will never forget how totally out of place I felt.  I saw most of the participants dancing and having fun.  My how I wished I could dance.  I didn’t even know how to start moving my feet.  Gradually I began to move just a little but always very conscious about how I might look to others.  Wow, is that a mirror to my life, always worried about what others might think.  Since Pathways, my feet haven’t stopped.  Each time I hear music, I start to move.  I will tell you I am no better at dancing than I was a few years ago, but it sure is fun to be free to dance.  There is a line of a worship song we sing at church that says, I am free to dance, I am free to run.  I really am free to be.

 

I challenge you to dance.  Forget about what others may think.  It’s all about you.  Whether you are dancing with your heavenly father or with a special someone unlock the chains that have you bound and learn to dance.  I recently took a couple of lessons to learn the two-step and the waltz.  It was very  challenging at first but very fun as I suspected.  Try it.  Dance just may be your thing.

 

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By Design

Sewingmachine I know you are thinking "By Design" how easy!  That is part of what we are called "Ladies By Design."  Oh, well!  I went to sleep about three hours ago with this running through my head and promising myself "I will remember all of this tomorrow."  Well, after sleeping for a very short time I began to dream about the subject.  Okay, God, "you really know I don't like getting up this early, I have all day tomorrow to write this."  "Let me sleep."  He always knows best doesn't he. So here I am at 3:00 AM with my fresh brewed cup of coffee flavored with raw sugar and half and half, my favorite way to drink it.  My fresh brewed life for today is starting VERY EARLY!

I was reminded of taking some college classes in a subject that is very close to my heart.  I have loved sewing for as long as I remember.  I pursued a two year degree and wondered. "where do I go from here?"  I decided to take some classes in fashion design and tailoring.  One semester we were required to create a garment and name it.  I thought I would never be able to pull this one off.  I was not a designer.

I started out with a blank slate, actually like an artist's blank canvas.  Am I an artist?  I was not one who was able to sit down with oils and brushes and create a beautiful painting but I could create a beautiful garment.  I first had to take the old muslin fabric and sew a jacket to be fitted perfectly to my body.  I made the garment and went to class for my fitting by the best instrutor I had ever had in all of my school years, Aris Thomas.  She was truly an angel from God.  Always giving and sharing her knowledge to anyone who was willing to receive it.  

After the perfect fit, it was time to take what she called the "fashion fabric" and make the jacket thus the real work began.  I began to think of the quilting skills I had recently acquired.  I decided to combine my quilting with a piece of fabric I had purchased some time before that had many different styles of hats.  I love hats.  I used to love to wear them.  I began to strip, quilt and create.  I decided a window frame would look good running down the front, a star highlighting each hat would look good on the front right, and Seminole strips would give a special affect going down the middle of each sleeve.  I was really feeling excited about this jacket.  I was liking the results, what else could I create to enhance this garment. I had my niece do a profile of me in a hat and I appliqued it to the back.  My garment was nearng completion.  Just one more fitting, a little trimming here and there and the finishing touches were applied.  Oh, I almost forgot, I had to name my garment.  Mine would be called "Chapeau du jour", hat of the day! 

The requirement for each student was at the end of the semester we had to be in a fashion show and our garment was judged in the competition.  The reward for my effort was "I won the blue ribbon."  I couldn't have felt better.  My hard work had paid off.  I not only had a beautiful garment, which I still have today, but I was rewarded for it.

The above story reminds me of one of my favorite scriptures; Jer. 29:11 "For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope."  Even though there is a specific plan for each of our lives, we have choices and we can slow down or totally change the completed canvas of our lives.  As God begins to trim away things that will hinder us from becoming who we are supposed to be, we can tell Him no.  My jacket couldn't stand up and say "No, I want to be on the other side."  I was the master creator of the jacket.  We on the hand can protest God's plan.  How many times have we all straddled the fence being torn between the right and wrong decision. 

For many years I tried to paint the scenery of my life the way I wanted it to look, all the while knowing it wasn't being done by the "Master Designer."  Just recently I again rose up and took the brush from the Master and tried to paint my own picture but He so graciously retrieved the brush from the novice's hand and He is again in control.  He is back at work painting and decorating my life.

Are you trying to paint your own picture?  Are you telling Him that you know best and you are in control?  I am here to tell you, "He really does knows best."   

I was required to name my garment.  What has God named you?  What does your name mean?  Mine means: Betty - consecrated to God, Ruth - compassionate.  I choose to let God paint a masterpiece of a woman who is compassionate and consecrated to Him.  What does the painting of your life look like?  Is it in focus?  There is a song I learned recently that says "I want to see what you see, I want to hear what you hear, I want to say what you say."  Doesn't that sound so relaxing and comforting?  Crawl up into your FATHER's lap and lay your head upon his chest.  Hear His heart beat with love and passion for you.  Let Him wrap His arms around you and feel secure.  He can love you like no other and watch the masterpiece of your life unfold.

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